You may know that I have selected, with my husband, to eschew diagnoses and labels–for the most part.
Sometimes, labels are helpful because they are succinct means of conveying a lot of information. Sometimes that is exactly what we are trying to avoid when we don’t use them–a sense of individuality, of possibility.
On the other hand, a diagnosis is a tool. It is a means of getting a picture of what you’re up against, what can be done about it, who might be in the same boat as you, how to find the best doctors and treatments to help you, how it might affect your family …
But you can see how that can be for the better or for the worse: If the information feels limiting, it is. You will need to reframe how you receive information and what you do with it once you have it.
So, for instance, you can ground and shield before you engage in information-gathering. Ask that only helpful information reaches your heart and all else is discarded without effect. If detrimental information reaches you unawares, ask that only that which serves your highest needs remains and all else is removed swiftly and completely.
Additionally, it can be helpful to remind oneself most assuredly that a diagnosis is a framework for understanding and optimizing your life in and through this situation.
It is an opportunity to discover relevant coping techniques, perhaps, while pursuing any healing that helps you reach your highest potential in life.
Moreover, a diagnosis is between you, God, and your doctors–your healers. Make a conscious choice about how you present your afflictions so that you proclaim only what you know is true for you.
I find it handy to come up with an answer for questions, and for that I tend to stick with biological information: “Her brain has trouble telling her arms and legs what she wants them to do,” is one example.
Most important is how you speak to yourself about it. Chin-up, forward-moving self-talk will help you more than the contrary.
If, for instance, you were diagnosed with arthritis, you could write and speak and think and even feel about it in a variety of ways:
I have arthritis.
I am arthritic.
I am struggling with arthritis.
I suffer from arthritis. [Oh, please don’t!]
I am afflicted with arthritis.
So how might you reframe this to honor your experience but also leave open the opportunity to heal?
Try this on for size:
Arthritis is a temporary part of my life which has given me the opportunity to learn, seek, and heal the deepest parts of myself and my heritage that has always been crying out for help. I am listening now, and I am actively resolving anything and everything I am guided to heal.
Love heals anything and everything, so bring love to your language for everything, including all your pains and even your yearnings.
Thank you for showing me.
Another opportunity has arrived–pursue it wisely!
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