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EFT – Tapping – Emotional Freedom Technique

Before I knew about the breadth and depth of homeopathy’s reach, I learned about Emotional Freedom Technique [also called EFT or Tapping].  For me, EFT wasn’t The Answer because of the requirements of time and concentration for our immense issues, but if you have time [even little bits, here and there], it is a very nice [and free!] option.


I find it useful in two situations:  when the emotion is crystal clear because it is newly born from an upsetting event, or when I am experiencing an uneasy emotion but I think there might be something else at the root of it.


—It is free [and easy] to learn the basics.  The person who created the technique offers a free tutorial on his website.  There’s also a book called The Tapping Solution, that you likely could find at or through your local library.  And the author of that book, Nick Ortner, has a free radio show on Hay House Radio.

—It is harmless.  The technique doesn’t have negative side-effects of which I am aware.  Worst-case scenario is that it doesn’t improve that which you were hoping to improve.

—It is incredibly portable.  No matter where you are, you can tap. You can even tap by proxy [tap on yourself, with the intention to help someone else who needs and accepts your help].  I also tap energetically [by imagining that I am doing the tapping on someone—namely, one of my kids].

—It can bring a deeper awareness to the issue you are facing, because as you tap through one emotion, another might surface.  Awareness means the emotion is seeing the light of day, which increases its chance of being healed.


The main downside is that it takes time and concentration, so I tend to use it for issues that arise suddenly where I cannot physically help—such as when a child is upset in the car while I am driving, or when a child is having trouble sleeping.  You can tap a little at a time, but of course any deep or broad issues do take longer to resolve.

How I Use It

I quickly put it to use when my kids were really upset about something that had just happened.  I have employed it very successfully twice—both times, I was not easily in a position to help my child tangibly so I was grateful for this tool [I just visualized tapping for them].  My biggest tip for using it successfully is to be as specific as possible and to stay with the process until it feels completely resolved.

The first time I remember using it with great success was in the car.  I had played a song for my eldest son that I thought he would find hilarious.  Instead, he found it excrutiatingly scary.  It was about Anne Boleyn, walking around the castle as a ghost, carrying her head with her and threatening to drop it in the soup, and so on.  I actually don’t like gruesome anything, so I assumed if it was fine with me, it’d be fine for my son [he probably was 6 years old at the time? and was always talking about gruesome things].  Anyway, he had heard it earlier in the day, then we were out and about for a while, and on the way home that evening, he started freaking out in the car.  I offered to do EFT [energetically], he accepted, and we started.  I asked him to tell me what he was feeling—worried, anxious, scared?  I tapped through the first emotion 3 times, then asked again.  We tapped through the next emotion 3 times, and on and on we went.  It was probably about 10-20 minutes to resolve the whole thing.

This is something to remember:  The sooner you can heal an upsetting emotion, the less of an impact it can have on your overall health [homeopathic Aconite 200 is great for that too–I use EFT for lesser issues now that I tend to carry Aconite with me].

If you let a fear just sit, it festers, or it attaches itself, or it grows like a snowball into a giant snowman … So EFT can be helpful for that when it is a very specific issue and you have the time and ability to focus and few other options.  To wit, I use it mainly at night when sleep is a priority or in the car when my ability to help is limited.  And I use it primarily energetically.

Another time that I found it highly useful was when my youngest son had watched parts of a movie about robots with his eldest brother on a portable device.  The youngest kept proclaiming his interest and courage, so my eldest had obliged.  As a result, I didn’t notice what they were watching until my youngest had seen more than I’d wished [and I wished none!].  I was worried he’d have trouble sleeping, but he assured me he wasn’t scared.  And, indeed, he fell asleep quickly, much to my surprise and delight.  However … about an hour after he fell asleep, he popped up in bed like a jack-in-the-box.

I tapped generally because I was sooo tired and really wanted him to just go back to sleep already.  That means saying, “my feelings” or just tapping without saying anything.  And by “saying,” I mean “thinking” because it was the middle of the night and I was trying to keep quiet.  Also, my youngest does not like to be helped hardly at all, so he doesn’t like active tapping.  It is an ethical question as to whether people should use tapping without the other person’s expressed consent, but I figure that for my kids, I’m responsible for them, so I should help them the best I can.

Anyway, the general tapping didn’t work.  I think I tried for 20 minutes before I was finally awake enough to do otherwise!  So, when I woke up a bit more, I decided to tap on the issue, “Even though I am afraid of robots, I fully and completely accept myself.”  I did that for a few rounds [also quietly, energetically, thinking and imagining it but not physically doing or saying it], and voila, he plopped back down and went back to sleep!



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